Planning a Same-Sex Wedding in NJ

Written By Stefan Lane

Your wedding should be a true reflection of your love story—without limits, outdated traditions, or anyone dictating how it "should" be done. When I started researching this topic, one thought kept coming up: How do you plan a same-sex wedding? The truth is, just like any other wedding—but there are unique considerations that can make a difference. So, let’s dive into the details! If you're planning a same-sex wedding in New Jersey, you’re in the perfect place. NJ is one of the most LGBTQ+-friendly states, offering endless opportunities to create a celebration that feels authentic to you. Here’s everything you need to know to plan an unforgettable wedding.

1. Finding LGBTQ+-Friendly Vendors

The last thing you want is to deal with a vendor who “tolerates” your wedding instead of celebrating it. Stick with businesses that openly support and love working with LGBTQ+ couples.

  • Venues: Look for locations that have hosted same-sex weddings before and proudly display inclusivity in their marketing.

  • Photographers (hey, that’s me!): You want someone who captures your love authentically and reflect you as a couple, not forcing traditional poses that don’t feel right.

  • Officiants: Choose someone who understands your love story. Your ceremony should be personal and meaningful.

  • Caterers, florists, DJs, and more: Check reviews and ask upfront if they’ve worked with LGBTQ+ couples before. The right vendors will be excited to bring your vision to life!

2. Choosing the Perfect NJ Wedding Venue

From beachfront vows to industrial-chic celebrations, NJ has something for every couple. Some of the most LGBTQ+-friendly venues include:

3. Wedding Attire Without Limits

Wear what makes you feel amazing. Whether that’s two dresses, two suits, mix-and-match looks, or something entirely unique—your wedding style should reflect you. If you’ve been reading my blog for some time now, you’ll see I am a big stickler on this… your wedding is all about you, nothing else.

4. Navigating Family Dynamics & Guest Lists

Unfortunately, not everyone may be as supportive as they should be. Your wedding should be filled with love and positivity—so invite those who genuinely support you. And if family tension is an issue, consider a smaller, intimate ceremony with a bigger party afterward.

5. Understanding LGBTQ+ Marriage Rights in NJ

NJ has recognized same-sex marriage since 2013, so your marriage is 100% legally protected. Here’s what you need to know:

  • Apply for your marriage license at your local registrar’s office.

  • After the wedding, get certified copies of your marriage certificate for any name changes or legal documentation updates.

6. Capturing Your Love Story (For a Lifetime)

Your wedding is one incredible chapter in your love story, but it’s just the beginning. The right photographer will make sure your memories are preserved with authenticity, artistry, and emotion (hint hint, I know someone who does just that).

~ Planning a same-sex wedding in NJ should be a celebration—filled with joy, love, and zero stress over outdated traditions. Do it your way, surround yourself with the best people, and make it a day to remember. And if you’re looking for a photographer who gets it, you know where to find me! 😉

Stefan Lane
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